Friday, 14 June 2013

Decisions, decisions

I have some very big decisions to make in the next few weeks.  It's all rather scary and I'm worried about the making the wrong choices and how that would impact on the Teenager.  Family and friends are both helpful and non helpful but ultimately the decisions have to be made by me.

I came across this piece of advice by Dr Barker of the OU.  It's been very useful in making me think about a few things.

Dr Barker's Decisions Making Tips

When we're not sure what to do, there's a tendency either to make a decision far too quickly or back off from the decision altogether.  Both should be avoided.

Instead, embrace the uncertainty.  It's not an easy thing to do but you should sit out your decision until you've gathered all the information and set out all the options.

Think about what you value and makes a good or meaningful life for you.  Tuning into this can help with the decision.  How will your choice fit your values in life?

Will your decision open up future options or limit them?  Imagine you've made your decision, do you feel lighter and freer or more constrained?

I get the feeling it's going to be a rather emotional weekend as I thrash out a few things with my loved ones.  But I'll get there.


  1. Ali very wise words there, remember nothing is for ever, you can always change things again xx

  2. All I can say is 'do what feels right'.

    Good luck :-)

  3. Good luck with that :)

    viv in nz